Great relationships are truly beautiful. When a couple is in harmony, they understand each other’s needs and values and make sure that they are ready to take on the rest of the world on a day to day basis. Unfortunately, getting to this stage in a relationship can take time, energy and a lot of effort. To truly understand your partner is difficult and fraught with the chance of failure. Making the best of your relationship is a little easier though and leads the way towards the perfect relationship.
Figure Out What Your Partner Is Looking For
Often, people mistake the things that they really want, deep down in their minds. Subconsciously, we all know what we want but it can be difficult to verbalise it, let alone explain to someone else who is looking from a different perspective.Over time, you will learn more and more about your partner. For a very long time, I thought I wanted to work in a recording studio. Only after a long talk with a few of my friends and other people close to me did I realise what I really wanted to do. With their help, I realised that in actual fact, I wanted to teach others how to make beautiful art. No matter the art form, my passion lay in sharing my knowledge with others. Figuring out what your partner enjoys and wants to do in their day to day is more difficult than it seems, however. When people are left to their own devices, they don’t necessarily do what is best for them. People spend time watching TV, relentlessly checking Facebook and Twitter or playing lots of video games, to the exclusion of everything else. What’s necessary to figure this out is a lot of communication!
Intimacy & Communication
Intimacy, both emotionally and physically is heavily tied with how effectively people communicate with each other. The more you talk with someone, the closer they become. This is important because over time in most relationships, the intimacy levels can drop as people start assuming they don’t nee to tell each other facts about their life and workday that they might have done earlier in the relationship. There’s a great episode of How I Met Your Mother where Marshall and Lily start to tell each other what they ate for lunch every day again. This sounds silly but it is little special rituals and conversations that bring people together, tighter than before.If you think that something is missing, try to find some time just to talk, have a laugh and a great conversation with your partner, with no other distractions. Turn the TV off and switch your phones to airplane mode. There’s a lot more to the world than fluorescent backlit screen.
Your Attention Is Worth More Than Gifts
Bad parents and bad partners have a few things in common. One of these is a lack of attention giving. when you don’t give your attention to your partner freely and willingly, it can sour your relationship.Most people try to ‘fix’ things in their relationship by spending lots of money and making huge displays of affection, on the occasions they feel bad for not doing enough in the relationships. Rather than bi-annually making an effort, making a small effort more often, consistently showing your appreciation will make your relationship much better.
Growth And Support In A Relationship
Most people want a lovely, long term relationship with the ones they love.People change every day, along with how they act and feel about things. Whilst the process is very gradual, growth is certain and makes a difference in longer term relationships. Growth is almost always a positive thing for the individual, but it can start to create friction in a relationship. Growth can take shape in many ways but people are afraid of it. When you grow, others try to stop you from doing so, fearing they will seem inadequate and try to sabotage your progress. This is why support in a great relationship is of utmost importance. If your partner is supporting your growth, your relationship will be able to withstand more. The flip side to this coin is if your partner doesn’t want you to grow. Misery loves company and it is very easy to sabotage those close to you.
If you are trying to start a new business, most of your friends will tell you it is a bad idea, there’s no job security, you are just wasting your time… and so on. Your partner’s opinions will also have an effect on how well you do with your growth. Support each other as much as you can and you will make the perfect relationship.