There are many factors to the failure of relationships. Sometimes, it’s lack of communication or misunderstanding. At times, it’s a lack of trust or just plain old incompatibility between two personalities. And well, sometimes, it’s cheating.
If you feel that you’re being cheated on you could hire an investigator, but that’s a bit over the edge. If you want to find out if you’re being cheated on here are 3 simple and cost effective ways to find out:
Make use of Technology
Advances in technology like the internet, social media and the mobile phones have created new avenues for aspiring cheaters to maintain trysts while right under the noses of their partners. The increasing number of options to cheat has also increased the chances of getting caught. So if you’re willing to go the extra mile, you can really find out if your boyfriend has something to hide. Notice if he steps out a lot to answer a phone call or if he’s being overly protective of his cellphone, then something definitely smells fishy.
Now, if you’re really willing to push the limits of privacy, you can login to his Facebook account, assuming that you know his password or if he’s the sort to leave it logged in on a device. This way, you can check it for unwarranted messages. If you’re doing this, be sure not to get caught. Take note that this violates his right to privacy and can be an avenue for more conflict to arise in your relationship…in case he’s really clean.
Observe His Behavior
Is he or she suddenly a green eyed monster? Sudden behavioral changes are a pretty standard symptom of cheating. Is your partner easily jealous now when he wasn’t before? Are you being accused of cheating? If this is the case well, it could be because he is anxious about his own dalliances and is projecting this on you. Also notice if he over explains himself. Some guys will be overly defensive when you ask them the most innocent of questions. Ask him regarding his whereabouts several hours earlier and if you hear an excessively lengthy, detailed explanation then you have something to worry about. So be wary, and take notice of your partner’s behavioral patterns.
Take a Closer Look Into Your Relationship
Are things still healthy between the two of you? One of the main causes of cheating is a lack of communication or a rickety relationship. If you don’t feel that the relationship is working well or if others especially really close friends start to take notice it might be a sign that your partner is cheating. And even if no cheating is occurring, you may well want to assess your relationship anyway. After all, an examined relationship is usually a healthy one. Now you can finally get that heaviness off your chest and just talk about it.
Discovering cheating is pretty simple and doesn’t require spending. However, deciding what to do with the relationship afterwards is going to be challenging. So get ready for that, too.